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Kohn refers to a relationship where the quality and amount of parental attention are not restricted to punishing a kid for poor behavior and rewarding good behavior as "unconditional parenting." Unconditional parenting does not include the use of time-outs, positive reinforcement, natural consequences, or any other generally recommended parenting methods. According to Kohn, when we use external motivators like incentives and penalties, we are teaching our kids that their value relies on what they do. Conversely, unconditional parenting makes the assumption that the kid in front of us is doing their best and seeks to address the child as a whole, not just the undesirable behavior.